A few months back..
I was clueless about how to make my child prepare for a debate. The topic was ‘Money is important’. He has to speak for the motion. And when I first heard about it, I asked him if he could speak against the motion. When I, myself not agree with it, how can I prepare the write – up for it. He immediately replied that it cannot be changed now. We have no option to choose from. The teacher decides and you have to write. He himself started giving me ideas on what could we write about it. Then, I searched, read googled, about the topic, half heartedly. I could not convince myself. I had never felt the money is really that much important. Its undebatable topic, until today….
People seek favour. Its ok. Perfect. But when asked same thing in return, they respond as if I am selfish. I didn’t go to them. They are doing business so they have official right to be selfish. They will do it, the return of favour they asked, only for money. Here’s the story….
Someone asked my child’s papers, which are, of course not much important to me as he will be going to next class. I can give them happily but when the person who asked for it, runs an institution of enrichment classes for children, I tried my luck asking for the sheets from her classes, then, I was told that it comes with the price tag. And I got that humiliating feel that I cannot afford that. Now, this comes from the common friend, so it hurts more. So,Money Matters!
I know that I’m still going to help as selfish word does not suit me. But the incident has incited me to reconsider my beliefs about some things and some people. Thank you God!!
Some people live life just as they have been TAUGHT to; this might help them win the survival game or ensure that they are at the safest distance from all kinds of controversies but, after a certain time, doesn’t their conscious gets reluctant to own them? Strange? But I’m sure, at least some of us share the same feelings.
When we are about to start feeling that we are the New Generation, we find the generation next to us is already there, growing fast to TEACH us now!
‘Being Me’ becomes difficult; these people were being guided so much all through their life that they do not remember what they actually are and what they really want to do in life. You will say that this is good, Good luck. Yes. OK, They are blessed. No doubt.
Merely following instructions feel like dependent forever. They are being protected to the extent that they could not feel their identity as an individual. Though they had enjoyed that dependency but not forever, especially, when they grow up, it seems everyone is concerned about themselves now, and THEN, they are left on their own. Suddenly, they are dropped!
It’s their inability to notice when that happened. They get confused. They don’t know what to do with themselves.
After that realisation, they do gather courage and wisdom to start afresh without offending anyone. That is the time when they look for all inspirational books and incline towards spirituality for mental peace. And other people think that they are becoming too much religious. But they know that deep inside they want the same carefree life and all-things-get-managed-on-their-own type of environment!!
Hey dear, It is the time when you hone your talent of socialising just to have that ‘In‘ kind of feeling. You might start feeling matured now. You think that you have become wiser! And you start preaching others too! And then, you have this sudden, but expected realisation that you actually did not live YOUR life. You might think that you had lost so much of YOUR years. By this time kids start telling you their wants and needs and YOU are bound to cater them!!! 😇
Still ,Live your remaining life, by BEING YOURSELF.
All the best!
Sorrow is never Sorrow.. I recently realised it. It is just our inability to notice our blessings.
It’s our stupidity that we do not realise that we have plenty… As much as needed to be cheerful. Why we need someone else to make us realise that we are blessed enough to remain happy? We go to babas or sadhus for the enlightenment. Or sometimes, it’s the suffering of others that give the lesson of our life! This happened just recently with me.
She is the best lady, the best mother, the happiest mother, the happiest lady…. I had given these titles to her and may be, many more, always in my heart and my mind. I always thought why I can’t be so jolly type of person like her. She is raising a handsome, confident son. He is also brilliant, has charismatic personality. They both spend a good time together.. Go out for lunch, fun, party etc. She seem to be my ideal for the way life is to be lived.
Today, I got to know that her husband is bed ridden since last 10 years!! He has some problems with nervous system. He can speak but no limb movements could be possible. She told me. I could see tears in her eyes and felt in mine too. But I do not want to make her realise that I am such a weak person. I could not even listen the things which she had been coping since long, that too with smile always. I never thought life would give me such a big lesson like this…
Count your blessings.
I always liked this mother – son duo and now I have a deep respect for them. She is my inspiration for how life should be lived. And now, sympathy, crying, misery are out of my dictionary. Live and Live happily… Always, come what may be. Be tougher than your problems. That is my new year resolution!!!
HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!
You were there that time,
When I first stepped into sunshine.
I remember that feel,
Worries and trouble when kneel.
Your shadow was enough,
To make all my wounds heal.
How strong were you,
I could realise only now.
When you, my shield, is gone,
And I have to face things, of all sorts.
Was all this so complex for you too?
But you never made me feel so.
I love you, I love you dad,
Your absence is also teaching me,
The things which I still need to learn,
Wish you could see, I’m growing, now from within!
Life is a journey. We all have heard or read this many times. We believe it too. Some of us have felt it also. We are always on the move. We are always preparing to do something. just like in a trip, we plan to go some place, visit the famous or may be not so famous spots in and around that place. In the journey of our life too, we plan something and do it accordingly. Sometimes, unplanned and unexpected things, good or bad, happens and we just have to live. Just live, just breathe, just let it go. It will go. Good or bad. And we continue our journey. We don’t know when it’s going to end, How it’s going to end. Do Not think about that. You will not, if you are living each moment. Good moments does not require much efforts from our side to be lived. Bad, sad moments seem to be heavy. But if you learn the art of living it like, just-any-moment, it will not affect you much. Treat it only like a rough patch on the road. You came, you got bumped, and you passed by. That’s all. Do Not carry it further. If you feel pain, get it healed. Get it cured, Yourself. Or, better, Leave it right there. Let it be. You move on. Remember, it’s a journey. You will miss the fun of scenes that are yet to come, if you keep on thinking of that rough patch. So enjoy the rest of the journey. Your life journey. Live all the moments. Build memories. Cherish it…. THE JOURNEY OF LIFE.
Life is to live on
Mistakes devastate us. It’s not the consequences of mistakes that we have done, bring distress. Actually, it’s the feeling, the guilt, the self criticism, that won’t allow us to be calm.
We know that we should learn from our mistakes. Or forget about past. Or move on. We know. But when we face it, THE moment, even if it’s for a while, seems to be long, too long than we want it to be.
But eventually, we do move on. We have to. The real test is now. How we deal with it, decides who is stronger, YOU or your FEAR. Try doing following simple steps to get some comfort :
- Accept it ASAP: It is done. Accept it. Own it.
- Find remedy: Think about the ways to rectify it. FOCUS on that. Solve it. (Don’t just talk about it when you are doing nothing to solve it).
- Take help: Do not shy away from taking help. Remember, Man is a social animal (I had started many school essays with this sentence and it worked! ). People feel great when somebody seek advice from them. You just need to find the right person!
- Do it yourself: Actual rectification is your take now. Work honestly hard.
- Feel better: If there is a will, there is a way. You will find the solution. When you had actually worked to make things right, you will surely feel better. It won’t haunt you. The inner peace which you have got is the best reward.
Life is to live on.
Have no fear
Wish to go beyond boundaries?
It’s plethora of pleasant feelings there.
It’s tough at first, with fears and dilemmas
Make a choice, firm you up.
Leave no stone unturned, let you sweat
Trust your strength, it’s there in you.
Failures, frustrations cannot stop you anymore
Do it for you, who else will then.
Life is yours, Be alive, spread your wings
See yourself rising up, serene in glory.